I have been clinging to a picture in my head of what motherhood was supposed to look like. What my child should act like. What our life should be. I didn’t even realize how tightly I was holding onto that “frame” until my therapist said something that stuck with me.
“[D] is frameless.”
I had been trying to fit her into a frame that was never meant for her. A fixed image of expectations, comparisons, and “shoulds.” But she doesn’t belong in a frame! She isn’t meant to be contained or defined by what I thought motherhood would look like.
When I let go of the frame of expectation, our life becomes something greater. Without that frame she isn’t limited; there are more possibilities, more opportunities, and more beauty in allowing her to exist without those constraints.
When I practice embracing a frameless life, I don’t just see my child differently, I see the world differently and what a beautiful picture that is!
